EMOTIONAL INTELLIGENCE TEST

There are a number of EI assessment tools that will give you a formal opinion on where your EI strengths and weaknesses might lie. However, next quiz has some questions to help you get a very basic idea of where your emotional intelligence is currently. Choose the answer for each question that is most like the way you would likely react. Be honest!

1 – You are feeling depressed and a friend asks you how you are doing. You are more likely to respond:

1. Great!
2. Fine, thanks.
3. I don’t know. Ok, I guess.
4. Not so great.
5. I feel depressed.

2 – When the person you are in a relationship with says something that hurts your feelings, you:

1. Break up.
2. Walk away.
3. Try to hurt them back.
4. Say, ‘You really hurt my feelings’.
5. Say, ‘I feel hurt by that.’

3 – When someone discovers that you have made a mistake, you:

1. Deny it,
2. Blame someone else.
3. Defend yourself.
4. Remind them of when they made a mistake.
5. Thank them.

4 – When you feel afraid about something, you:

1. Worry and worry and worry some more.
2. Try not to think about it.
3. Ignore it and hope it goes away.
4. Consider how possible it is your feels will come true and think about options.

5 – When someone tells you that you upset them, you:

1. Say they are just too sensitive.
2. Say you were joking.
3. Say you’re sorry and ask questions to understand exactly what upset them.

In this quiz the last answer for each question is the one that displays the highest level of emotional intelligence.

If you chose a different answer, then congratulations – you have already identified an area of your emotional awareness that you can begin to improve.

If you chose all of the last answers, remember that this is only a sampling of the types of emotional situations that we face in any given day. You will need to continue to pay attention to what you are feeling in order to locate areas for improvement.

Of course, there is an Emotional Intelligence assessment tool that is very simple to use. It’s free too. You simply ask others for feedback about your strengths and weaknesses. You won’t do this with just anyone – you would do it with people that you trust and with whom you have an important relationship. For example, you could ask your spouse, boss, subordinates, children or close friends. You let them know that you are trying to learn how you interact with others and you want them to feel free to say what they really think. There are two rules to using this tool. Rules of  Feedback

1. You just listen. Avoid interjecting, interrupting, defending yourself or justifying your actions. You can ask clarifying questions such as: “Can you tell me more about that?” or using listening acknowledgements like ‘right’, ‘uh-uh’, ‘sure’. You don’t defend, explain or rebut what is said to you. You have to keep an open mind and listen to the other person with the understanding that what they are saying is how you appeared to them in experiences they have had with you. This is a chance for you to learn about yourself, not an opportunity to justify past behaviour.
2. You don’t hold anything against the person giving you feedback, even if you don’t like what you hear. You need to be able to hear the good and the bad and to appreciate the other person’s candour. You should appreciate that they feel comfortable enough to tell you what might be difficult to hear. And if you find out you have something to apologize for, do it! Take the chance of cleaning up your relationship if you get it.

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